Over the past few weeks I’ve been trying to compile reasons why San Francisco is better than Texas; however it’s impossible to compare a city to a state. So instead I’ll compare it to the two cities I have lived in, Houston and Dallas. There are a handful of reasons I see myself staying in San Francisco compared to the two Texas cities above. Below are my observations:
1) People Don’t Care What You Do….
Since we live in a society where we make our own way that’s exactly what this city allows an individual to try and accomplish. (For some reason people always thought New York City was the city where dreams come true. Ugh, obviously they haven’t been to San Francisco!) All the tech companies I see striving to reach the top are priceless!
From Facebook, Yelp, Pinterest and that company named Google; several tech companies are still pursuing their dreams here. So essentially, people don’t care what you do as long as you try your hardest. Because chances are someone in the area is probably trying to accomplish the same task. The question at hand is what separates you from your competitor (or a potential competitor)?
2) Beaches Are Heavenly….
Anyone that knows me through college knows that I would wake up on Saturday mornings to drive an hour south to see the sunrise in Galveston. I would meditate, and have some of the best study time at a local coffee shop. Being on a peninsula is life changing to me because, in my opinion, water is the most powerful sign of a higher force. It lets me know that people can’t live in this world alone. Plus assurance there is a force that keeps us moving together like the ocean currents.
3) There Are a Bunch of Start-Ups….
Even though I have mentioned this, there are a LOT of startups in San Francisco. A quick Google search shows over 6,000 companies in ONE city trying to start their own business. Therefore, generating a lot of jobs and need for smart people to live in or around the city to make their company though the tough beginning years. In addition, that means there are a huge amount of people that are ferocious leaders that have stronger will-power than seen in Dallas or Houston.
4) You Can Live Your Life How You Please…
Another pro about San Francisco is that people don’t care how you live your life as long as you’re not harming others in the process. Abiding by the laws and keeping to yourself, you’ll do just fine in this city. Also, compared to Dallas or Houston this city puts up PRIDE flags in downtown (Financial District) at the beginning of the month because of their fame for LGBTQ rights. It’s a priceless feeling knowing that this city comes together for LGBTQ students (and adults) for their rights as human individuals.
5) The Amount of Sophisticated People…
Yes, with all these start-ups it requires sophisticated people. When I first started here, I used to joke with my boss about a phrase I once said…. “I’m not that DUMB, I’m from Texas!” Yeah, with all the arrogant people in Dallas and Houston who believe their city is the smartest they need to think again. The biggest change I see is the waste and lack of recycling in Texas is pitiful and makes me sick. Also, the way people conduct business here is still via phone calls and in-person meetings. Yeah emails may still work, but phone calls and in-person meetings seals the deal.
From the Texas perspective I’ll always have; here are the reasons that I don’t miss the lonestar state and some reasons I do:
1) The Recent Texas GOP Disgusts Me…
Any state government that tries to fringe into an individual’s bedroom and personal life is sickening. In addition, the belief that any person identifying their sexual orientation requires “ex-gay therapy,” should go through “ex-straight” therapy or “divorce therapy,” because quite frankly your religion that’s judging my lifestyle is sickening. Additionally, it’s the reason the millennials (Generation X) are leaving the church. So don’t say, “…homosexuality tears at the fabric of society.” How about your five-day marriages? Or 4.1 marriages out of 1,000 people per capita ending in a divorce? Fix that first and then we can have a conversation about a topic that’s a non-issue to majority of Americans.
2) Fences Exist at the Back of a Softball Field…
Many of you know I play softball in NAGAA, the “gay softball league” and love the sport. However, in San Francisco the fields are back-to-back and DO NOT have fences. It’s very hard, but makes it easy for me to get a homerun or even a grand slam! Also, I’ve played a team here that was primarily drag queens and the pitcher has some spin to her game after my two triples against her… (Of course she’s from the south though!!!) These types of players won’t be found in Dallas or Houston. (Maybe close, but not quite!!!)
3) Summer Heat, Pools and BBQ aren’t Present….
Sadly, in a way, I miss my summer heat, swimming pool parties and amazing BBQ evenings. Nothing compares to relaxing in the pool after a long day of work or even on a weekend drinking a cold one with some friends. It’s probably the event I miss the most from Texas. (Even more than my truck!) However, I do love the weather that might hit 80, but will go down to the 50′s at night time.
4) Not Having a Vehicle…
To me it’s still shocking I have gone this long without a vehicle. However, I have noticed the amount of money saved from gas, insurance, etc. that goes into a car that I no longer have to worry about. I love that aspect, but I do miss driving. (Perhaps by Christmas I’ll make the drive in a Toyota from my dad back here.)
5) People are Judgmental…
The people here are friendly, but the southern hospitality is a factor I miss. I know people care, but it comes off differently. Hugs ARE NOT given graciously here, unless it’s from my softball team because #TeamDNA is one big family!
So at the end of the day I know moving here on April 17 was the right decision for me. I know that in four hours I can be back in Dallas by heading to SFO for a plane ride. In the meantime, I’ll stay in a city where PRIDE flags are held high in the Financial District. People don’t care whose hand I hold, or how I live my life as long as it makes me happy and I don’t harm others in the process. Feel free to leave your thoughts or let me know if I have something wrong!
#OneLife #OneLove #HappyPRIDE